Outgrowing Our Old Life

As we grow, Try to outgrow people, situations, behaviors, thoughts, and beliefs. Not everyone will make it over into our new life. It doesn’t mean anything was wrong with them. It just means that their part in your life story is over. We are going to outgrow our old life. We will meet new people who now play a role in our new story. You might take a lot of flak for moving forward. However, you must do what is best for your life and growth.

All of us are individually responsible for the growth of ourselves and our lives. We need to become leaders in our own life. That means we are accountable for the things, situations, and people that come into our lives. We will outgrow certain kinds of conversations, thoughts that no longer serve us, and behaviors that do not bring about growth in our lives. Your destiny is never tied to anyone walking away from your life. Neither is anyone’s destiny tied up to you walking away from them.

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No matter who is walking away, we must respect people’s decisions to move on. If we realize that there is too much drama going on in our lives and it keeps us stuck, we must remove ourselves from whatever is causing that drama, even if it is us. We cannot continue keeping ourselves anywhere that does not bring about growth and development.

There comes a time when we need to take a deeper look at our life and see if where we are is where we truly desire to be. It will also take deep strength and commitment to growth for us to walk away from a life that is only causing us to break down more and more. That is not healthy. Every individual deserves to live a life that is abundant and prosperous.

We can’t live that life if there is chaos in our life. We are blocking our ability to tune into our abundance if our life is not emotionally healthy and free. Everything that comes into our lives serves a purpose, a reason, and healing. However, not everything that comes into our life is meant to be in our life forever. Problems occur when we try to force others to be in our lives. If someone says they need space, then honor that request. If someone is walking away from you, let them go. They are not your prisoner.

We are born free. Free to be where we desire to be, free to decide where our life is going, and free to live a life of happiness, stress-free and safe. No one should threaten another person’s life just because they are walking away from them. That is not a healthy way to live. Life goes on, and we need to let our lives flow. We also have a responsibility to ourselves not to let anyone hold us hostage in any way. That means we should never give anyone the power to keep us hostage mentally, emotionally, psychologically, and physically.


I was born into abuse. So, I grew up knowing a life filled with violence, sickness, anger, unhappiness, manipulation, mind control, and all the other disgusting things that come with abuse. However, amid all that darkness, I did experience love, light, happiness, and freedom. There were angels in the form of people during my teenage years who showed interest in me, cared about me, gave me strength, and instilled values in me. Those few years were a godsend.

It is why, at age 19, I could gather the strength to move out of the darkness to save my life. That was what I held onto during the darkest hours of my life. I never let my life be subjected to that kind of darkness. I needed more for my life, and to get more, I had to make some hard decisions, knowing full well that I would not get any support for my decisions.

However, when I decided to move out, many more angels were sent to save my life. Many of those angels are no longer in my life because their part in my story has ended, but their kind deeds have kept me going, and it has influenced me to be someone else’s angel. That is how I strive to live my life every day. While I will let my life guide me to where I need to go, I will not allow life, in general, to carry me along. Every day, I take inventory of myself, my life, and where I am. If I don’t like it, I take steps to take my life differently. I once heard something that I now call a parable:

You will walk down a road, and there is a hole that you fall into. You climb out of it and continue your Journey. The next day, you walk down the same road, but this time, you know about the hole, so you walk around it. The third time, you walk down a different street”. It is the same thing in our lives. We need to be actively paying attention to our lives to see if there is something that we will fall into. If we don’t see it in time, when we find ourselves in the middle of such a situation, we remove ourselves from that situation and then decide to walk a different Path.

Roberto Brock
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Snowboarder, traveler, DJ, Swiss design-head and HTML & CSS lover. Doing at the nexus of art and purpose to develop visual solutions that inform and persuade. I'm a designer and this is my work. Introvert. Coffee evangelist. Web buff. Extreme twitter advocate. Avid reader. Troublemaker.